Soooo…. I’m a mom and sometimes I’m compelled to write about mom stuff. I recently had 2 experiences I would like to share with you that really has stuck with me in the weeks that have followed. In this blog, I will tell you about the first of those 2 incidents…
My husband, my 2 girls and I were at the mall trying on bathing suits for an upcoming trip. The girls didn’t find anything they liked after trying on about 10 suits each. While getting their clothes back on, a mom with a little boy came up to the change room to wait for their turn. The girls came out without anything to put back, so I said to the mom “oh, sorry, it looks like they left the suits in there. Hold on a sec…” The mom looks into the change room, and in a less-than-mild tone, says “Yeah, they did. And they are all over the floor.” So, my girls aren’t perfect by any means, y’know they’re KIDS. They didn’t think to hang the suits up or even to bring them out. That’s totally not cool, but I don’t need to be parented by a stranger. Further still, as my husband goes into the change room to help tidy up, the mom addresses my kids with “you better go clean up in there because right now Daddy is cleaning up your mess.”
What I did at this point was leave the store. Listen, I know it takes all kinds… But, why, just why, do some moms take on this petty, competitive attitude? I can guarantee that this mom went home to her husband, and her community of mom friends, and started the re-telling of this story with something to the effect of “You will never believe how these girls behaved…”
Parenting is hard enough, you know? Trying to make other moms feel crappy about their parenting or about their kids so that you can feel superior is just wrong. Moms should stick together, not try to make themselves feel better by belittling other moms. That’s just BS. The thing is, I didn’t feel badly, I just felt angry. It was a great reminder to me about the way I want to live my life, about what’s important and about how I want to teach my girls to behave.